When somebody you love dies, there’s a lot to think about which may feel overwhelming at the time. It can be helpful to remember that even in a time of grief no one is ever alone – however it may feel
The Bible says: Even though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil; for you are with me; your rod and your staff — they comfort me. Psalm 23:4
Christians believe that there is hope in death as in life, and that there is new life in Christ after death and that there will be a time when there is no more suffering, no more tears, and death will be no more.
Every death is different. You might feel numb at first then a mixture of grief, gratitude, joy and anger – perhaps all mixed together. You might be hurting with the tragedy of an unexpected death, or perhaps you are grateful for a long and fruitful life. You may even be relieved that for your loved one the suffering is over.
A prayer many find helpful …
Support us, O Lord,
all the day long of this troublesome life,
until the shadows lengthen and the evening comes,
the busy world is hushed,
the fever of life is over
and our work is done.
Then, Lord, in your mercy grant us a safe lodging,
a holy rest, and peace at the last;
through Christ our Lord. Amen.
Planning a funeral service
To help with the very real sense of loss at a death a service is usual to mark the end of a person’s life here on earth. The service, a funeral or ‘A thanksgiving for the life of X’, helps to express our faith and our feelings. Family and friends gather to give thanks to God for a life lived, commend the person to God’s care, say farewell, comfort one another in their grief, and look together to Jesus’ promises for hope in the darkness.
Everyone who lives in the Parish of Bargoed and Deri with Brithdir is entitled to have a funeral service taken by the vicar or another authorised minister of the Church in Wales. The service forms a part of ongoing care during bereavement which the church offers.
Burials within our parish take place at Brithdir Cemetary.
Some people find planning the funeral with family and friends helpful. Perhaps you already know something of what your loved one wanted. You may even have planned the service together some time ago. The minister who will lead the service can help you choose suitable readings, hymns and prayers and help offer comfort and support. They will want to talk with you to build up a picture of the person’s life.
Some deaths will be especially traumatic, distressing or unexpected. The Church has special funerals for children, or after sudden or violent deaths, including suicide. Talk with your minister about what is possible.
To arrange a funeral service at St Gwladys’ please talk to your funeral director.